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I Feel Obligated Vayeitzei 5781

 


On Yom Kippur of 1981, Rabbi Morton Yolkut z”l, Rabbi of Congregation Bnai David in Detroit, wistfully related his wish or fantasy- that shul should be as full on a regular Shabbos morning as it was that day. A woman named  Tilly Brandwine was listening, and decided to act. Reaching out to the entire membership, and unbeknownst to the Rabbi, she picked a Shabbos when no simcha was happening and encouraged everyone to attend.  “This must be kept a secret from only one person - Rabbi Yolkut,”  she declared.  The article in the Jewish Post and Opinion acknowledged this small yet significant event, reporting that on Saturday, December 19th, 800 people packed the sanctuary.  Those 800 people understood something that is alluded to in this week’s Torah reading.

 

The Talmud tells us that our forefather Yaakov established the prayer of Maariv. As darkness fell over the road on which Yaakov was traveling, he felt an overpowering sense of holiness, and a deep need to pray. ויפגע במקום ההוא- our sages tell us that that verb, ויפגע, does not just mean “to encounter” or “to arrive,” but also to pray. But this prayer, that Yaakov instituted, is different from the other two daily prayers. Based on a passage in the Talmud (Berachot 27b), the Rambam (Tefillah 1:6) writes:

 

וְאֵין תְּפִלַּת עַרְבִית חוֹבָה כִּתְפִלַּת שַׁחֲרִית וּמִנְחָה. וְאַף עַל פִּי כֵן נָהֲגוּ כָּל יִשְׂרָאֵל בְּכָל מְקוֹמוֹת מוֹשְׁבוֹתֵיהֶם לְהִתְפַּלֵּל עַרְבִית וְקִבְּלוּהָ עֲלֵיהֶם כִּתְפִלַּת חוֹבָה:

The Evening Service is not obligatory like the Morning and Afternoon Services. Nevertheless all Israelites, wherever they have settled, have adopted the practice of reciting the Evening Service and have accepted it as obligatory.

 

There are a number of practical ramifications for Maariv’s status as an “optional” prayer, including the fact that there is no repetition of the Shemoneh Esrei at Maariv.  The notion that certain mitzvot fall under the category of a reshut is peculiar and worthy of our attention.  Have we already fulfilled every obligatory mitzvah such that we can take on another one, and daily at that? In the time of the Beit Hamikdash, voluntary prayers and sacrifices were offered occasionally, and the context was understandable.   If a person was feeling particularly grateful, joyous or in debt to Hashem, a “voluntary” offering is perfectly relatable.  But Maariv is everyday,  and therefore hardly feels like an “optional” prayer. In fact, the Geonim suggested that once we began praying Maariv regularly it became more than just a reshut and ought to be viewed as a formal obligation.  Having, in effect, eliminated Maariv from the category of an optional prayer, it calls us to question what our attitude is towards “optional” mitzvot in general.  Why, with so many unfulfilled obligatory mitzvot or chovot, would our Sages mandate the performance of unnecessary acts?

 

Perhaps the time in which we find ourselves represents an ideal opportunity to internalize the ethos of the “optional” mitzvah. If we think about it, we understand the notion of non-obligatory tasks being treated as an obligation. Consider the 50 million Americans that are flying this weekend to visit family, despite the livid warnings of the CDC, head-smacking of physicians and the chorus of condemnation on social media for anyone who does not stay home. For so many of these people, getting together with family is not optional; Thanksgiving wouldn’t be Thanksgiving without it.  Or consider the reverence people attach to their Thanksgiving menus, regardless of COVID. Candied yams, stuffing, cranberry sauce- these are sacrosanct and evoke extreme passion, and cannot be eliminated. Or your daily exercise  routine- you don’t have to workout daily (though maybe we should)- but many of us treat it as an inviolable event.  The concept of an optional engagement becoming obligatory is one with which we are intimately familiar. And so, when our Sages, of blessed memory, “mandated” a prayer once considered to be volitional, they wanted us to feel that sense of urgency and attachment we experience in connection with our rituals, our passions and our inviolable yet optional commitments.

 

Today, though, something terrible has come and upended our commitment to ritual, because many of the routine and discretionary commitments and expectations have fallen by the wayside. The pandemic has exempted so many individuals, institutions and businesses from the expectations normally in place. So much so that the expression “Due to Corona” has become a catchphrase, employed liberally and even deceitfully. For example, when you call a hotline of some kind, you are now informed that “due to Corona, our wait time is longer than usual.” This is, of course, utter nonsense. But now Corona is the convenient excuse, one which nobody can object to. Or consider that now, even yeshivot have to send notes to students that they should wear pants during class. Indeed, there is a default assumption that when you are meeting with someone via Zoom, they are probably not doing so, even though wearing pants used to be a requirement of polite society.  Everything we actually do now exceeds expectations, because they are so low. Those who would never dream of missing shul on a regular Shabbos haven’t been inside the building in months, so any engagement with tefillah is almost like a bonus.

 

In times like ours, where so many have lowered their expectations, we are challenged to uphold religious and communal responsibilities, whether they are obligatory or not. It is not a halachic obligation to purchase food from local restaurants and caterers, as much as some might try and convince us otherwise, it is certainly a “reshut”.  Halacha supports a free market to the benefit of consumers. But we should view it as an obligation to support local kosher establishments as much as possible within our means. Local caterers are in danger of closing due to reduced volume of events, and restaurants are barely hanging on. Eventually, this pandemic will pass, and if we want to have a robust kosher infrastructure that will attract people to our community, we need to rally around the purveyors of kosher food that we do have.

 

The mitzvah of tzedaka is another area in which we ought to treat reshut as an obligation. Yes, many are hurting now, and no one should be expected or pressured to give what they cannot afford. But we should also be mindful of the institutions that are on the brink of ruin because of the loss of discretionary tzedaka, their good work being lost forever. You can safely put away your credit card, because of the Covid card- which is reluctantly accepted everywhere…

 

Finally, it turns out that for many shuls, the amount of people they are permitted to have greatly exceeds the amount of people they do have. Yes, minyanim are not drawing the numbers because people are justifiably afraid, or have conditions that make it dangerous to be around others. And yes, no one should be pressured into making decisions about their health that are uncomfortable for them. But if we perform a risk assessment about Shabbos afternoon social gatherings and decide that those must be treated as a chovah while shul is not, then perhaps what is needed is a little honest self-reflection. Are we afraid, or are we hiding behind COVID? No one else can or should answer this question for us. The people who showed up for Rabbi Yolkut that Shabbos morning didn’t have to be there, but they declared that on that day, it was a priority for them. 

 

If there is one biblical character who takes this lesson seriously, it is Yaakov, who gently rebukes the shepherds of Lavan for their indolence, in encouraging them to get back to work, for the day was not over yet. Yaakov had no dog in this fight; his finances would remain unaltered whether these shepherds were working or not. For him, this was a completely altruistic action, protecting Lavan’s interests and defending honest business practices in general. It is that same person who sees the reshus as an obligation, who establishes the prayer of Maariv.  We should be like Yaakov. When it comes to doing the right thing, we should feel compelled to do it, whether or not anyone holds us accountable.

 



[1] Source- Rabbi Yolkut’s son Rabbi Daniel Yolkut of Congregation Poale Zedek of Pittsburgh

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